Life Experience

Two Choices

It’s no secret that life throws plenty of opportunities at you to be sad, miserable and down. ‘Oh woe is me, why is the world against me, what did I ever do to deserve this?’ The truth is, you probably did nothing to deserve the hardship and the pitfalls that are dealt to you and at times it can feel like it’s just you against the world.

When something goes wrong you have two options, just two. You can turn away from everything that has happened and hide, you can pretend amongst the tears and the panic attacks that everything is actually okay and that if you protect yourself with cotton wool, you will be fine. You can run away from the trauma, guard yourself and build high walls to make sure you won’t get hurt again.

Or you can confront the pain head-on. You can stare it in its beady black eye and understand it, why it’s come for you specifically. It might not reveal any of its reasons or let you in on its secrets, but by facing it you can be damned sure that you can push past it and move forward.

It’s easy to hide and it’s easy to shut down, to close yourself off from the world around you. It’s most definitely a surefire way of protecting yourself, we all know that. But ultimately, it’s also the death of you. You can’t grow as an individual without taking on challenges willingly or otherwise, and you will never learn more about who you are by turning your back and running away.

I’ve learned that it’s okay to be sad and upset, because when you bottle your real emotions – men and women – it makes everything 100x worse. But there should always come a natural point where you decide what to do next, and that’s the crucial moment. Do you blanket yourself and try to smooth over the cracks that have appeared? Or do you stand up with your head high, borrow some glue from someone who supports you and take a leap of faith?

Well I took the glue, and I would choose to take a leap of faith every time. You don’t know what’s going to happen tomorrow, nobody does, and it’s really scary to throw yourself into the unknown alone like that. But me, I wouldn’t do it any differently. I didn’t hide and here I am, Brittany v2.0, and I will continue to not hide every time a difficult challenge comes along. I want to confront life and take control of what happens to me and of how I feel, and that’s exactly what I’m going to do from now on.

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Work

[AR] BoS: Discovering the latest business knowledge, expertise and resources

Because I’m AR’s new blogger, I’m posting the links to new articles on every conceivable social media platform. It’s quite business-y and medical related, but you might find it interesting ๐Ÿ™‚

On 13th November, Lorna Bowes of Aesthetic Source brought together the members of the Aesthetic Business Network (ABN) for an insightful and dynamic workshop at The Custard Factory in Birmingham. Click here to read more…

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Education, Life Experience, World

Holidays and Professional Development

This time next week I’ll be relishing in the fact that the holidays have begun and I can begin my Christmas time. This is when the non-education sectors throw in ‘omg you can’t even complain about hard work, think about the holidays that you get!’ Yeah. The holidays are great, wouldn’t change them for the world at all. But I will say this; every single teacher deserves it. Jesus Christ do they deserve it. If you’ve never worked in a school then I’m afraid there’s no way of you knowing how stressful working in education is. Cos it is.

The holidays are wonderful, there’s no two ways about it, I love the idea of having two weeks off at Christmas when some people have two days. However, one thing that I will say about the holidays that isn’t so great is that it means that you literally have no flexible time to take off work. Need the doctor? Tough. Kids’ sports day? Don’t think so. Want to see The Hobbit midnight showing? Doubt it. So naturally there are both pros and cons to working in education, like there are to any job in the whole world.

I’m really learning a lot from working this internship and it’s really opening my eyes to real life work both in education and not. I’m really enjoying myself and I think by the end of it I will have changed and developed a lot as a person and I look forward to meeting that version of me.

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Education, Life Experience

Feeling 22 (At Least)

Age is a funny thing. Like, actually weird. I turned 22 on Saturday, what even is that?

I’m working at a school, whereas 3 months ago, I was living the life at uni, going out three times a week, going to bed when I pleased, waking up when I’m actually awake. Now, I’m up at 05:45, taking an hour to travel to and from work and I am working my butt off with kids that I never thought I would meet.

It’s fine. It’s a fine job, it’s not a problem. But it’s hard. It’s hard working in a school when you are constantly faced with kids and their personal lives that they bring to the school.

High schools seem terrifying to other people – “How can you possibly work with teenagers?! They’re horrible!” My answer to thatย is they can be horrible. But so can middle aged people that you might work with in your high rise office. You get good and bad in everybody and that is no different with kids in a high school.

One of the most difficult things I find, however, is motivation. Because I am essentially an assistant for kids who need that extra help within lessons, the students that I work with are not always keen to be in school which of course makes the job difficult but also interesting. Naturally, at first I was frustrated with them and would get mad at them but now, I sit back and talk them into it. It’s much easier now, obviously because I’ve been working with them for like 10 weeks and now they kinda know me (even got a birthday card off one charming sixth former).

It is a scary job, there’s no denying that. There’s the fear of having a constantly changing day at school and there’s the fear of getting something wrong because you are literally working with a person and contributing to their future life and development. That’s a scary thing. Even though I’m not a teacher and I only see some of the kids once a week, I am still there and I am something to do with their school career. Let’s just hope I’m doing it right and not making a fool of myself (which is a very easy thing to do in this sector).

To finish off, here is my anthem for the next 12 months.